My best friend is being verbally abused by her parents. They constantly put her down, telling her that her that straight A grades aren’t good enough and that she isn’t good enough for them.

-Lilyclaire

Dear Lilyclaire,

I think that it’s great that you want to help your friend, she is lucky to have a friend like you, one that isn’t afraid to get her hands dirty by getting involved in a tough family situation. Read the rest of this entry »

This is one question that I hear a lot and it deserves some time and thought especially when it seems that  many Christians are more messed up sexually than those not having a particular faith.

Growing up in church, I was taught that any sexual acts or thoughts outside of marriage was wrong and lustful and of course the Bible was used as justification of this. Also, sexual sin was put up on a pedestal as being the worst while other sins were acceptable or minor. For instance, don’t masturbate, but it’s Ok if I pleasure myself with 5 plates of food at the church pot luck.

If the Bible is a sexual manual, what would it tell us?

• More than one wife is acceptable. Read the rest of this entry »

I will try to make this as short as possible but to the point. My wife and I are both Christians. We have been married 16 years. She was a virgin when we married and STILL is today, 16+ years later. Yes, you read that correct, we have never had sex.

My wife is also very verbally abusive, all the classic signs, I never do anything right, name calling, everything is my fault, etc. and she does not think there is anything wrong with her, it is all me.

I guess I have stayed this long because for most of our marriage we were in church leadership and I did not want to be seen as a hypocrite, as I am not a fan of divorce and did not want to set a “bad” example.

We have been out of leadership for about 3 years and I’m at the point of leaving. When confronted she may be a little better for a couple of weeks, but then goes to back to her old ways.

She has no desire for me sexually, anything sexual has always been her being pleased. In fact she has stated numerous times, touching me in a sexual way is DISGUSTING. Her idea of counseling is that I go – because I need help. So what to do?

-Brett

Dear Brett

First, I would like to thank you Read the rest of this entry »

Ive been getting depressed more and more every month. I have been like this since October and my counselor wont come see me anymore.

I feel that it’s mostly because of my sister. Ever since she moved back, she treats me extremely bad. She’ll tell me that I’m stupid, I should die, and that I’m useless. She yells at me for some of the most stupidest stuff and its like every time it just gets worse.

I don’t know what to do anymore. My mom tells me that I just take everything to heart and that she doesn’t really mean all those things, but it causes me to feel like suicide is my only option. Even at school I get ignored and I do dress different and I listen to all that rock n roll, but to me its no reason to judge me. Read the rest of this entry »

Its been two years since I stopped going to the therapist for depression. I just stopped going because I was sure I am fine now. And I am fine. I am confident now unlike before. And don’t hold on to sad feelings forever like before. I know I probably won’t be depressed again.

I still feel envious of my sister for having so many friends Read the rest of this entry »