A Master and Servant Marriage

I believe that I am with my husband for better or worse. We have definitely had out better and our worse. We seem to be going through a particularly rough time right now.

He broke a bone and has been home from work for about a month now with probably about a month to go. I am working from home and babysitting so we are both home basically all the time. Today we were decorating for Christmas and he was sitting on the couch as he always does now-a-days. I had started making dinner while we finished up, he told me he was hungary and wanted to eat now!

It rubbed me the wrong way, very bossy, and I didn’t like the fact he was sitting on the couch demanding me to serve him while I was busy. I retorted “What do you think I am doing growing flowers in the kitchen? I am making dinner, if you really can’t wait you can get up and get yourself a yogurt or something”.

He hit my rear-end (I had my back to him using the remote for the TV because he wanted me to find him a better show to watch) what felt like as hard as he could and made a remark to the effect of don’t talk to me like that and get my dinner.

I know my comment was unkind, I know that we are getting on each others nerves with money being tight and him not working. But more and more he is demanding I serve him and he should not have to do anything around the house because he is the man and he pays the bills.

I hope this can be worked out, but I do not accept hitting or the attitude of “master and servant”. What should I do to get back that loving feeling?

-Jen