I’m Addicted to Porn

By | October 18, 2010

Addicted to pornI am fifteen years old and I have a porn addiction. I’ve tried numerous ways to free myself but nothing seems to work. The temptation is just so strong.

I am beginning to feel that all hope is lost and that it will never go away. The guilt I feel is horrible but I just can’t seem to stop. I’m afraid that this will never go away. Have I ruined my life forever? Or is there still hope?

-Anonymous

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Dear Anonymous,

Thanks for sharing your difficult question with me. I think with this issue it’s important to put it in the right perspective. Don’t make it a bigger dealĀ  than what it is. Because you Look at porn it’s not the end of the world and it it most likely won’t ruin your life.

Are there better ways to spend your time? Of course, but looking at porn is not some huge, unforgivable sin like some in the church would have you believe. What’s more important is how you treat your friends, family, and those you come in contact with. Looking at porn is not any worse than anything else. Don’t give it too much importance or power.

Secondly, figure out what porn is doing for you. In other words what are you using porn to escape from or what void are you trying to fill with it. Often things we’re addicted to are things we use to self medicated, avoid the truth, or exert some sort of power or control in our lives.

Once you figure out this then you can take steps to meet that need in your life in more constructive ways. You’re life isn’t ruined and there is hope to break an addiction to porn. Just cut yourself some slack, put it in the right perspective and grow to understand yourself better.

Also check out this book that teaches you how to break an addiction to porn. It talks about the above steps in a lot more detail.

Kind regards,

Ted

4 thoughts on “I’m Addicted to Porn

  1. VERY HURT

    REALLY TED ARE YOU KIDDING ME? ITS NOTHING…THATS BS. MY HUSBAND IS A SEX ADDICT AND LOST HIS CAREER OVER THIS ADDICTION 12 YEARS AGO. IN WHICH HE LOST TWO MORE JOBS AFTER THAT. I STOOD BY HIS SIDE AND TRIED TO BE A REAL SUPPORTIVE WIFE. I HAVE GONE YEARS WITHOUT SEX OR INTIMACY WITH THIS MAN. MY CONCERN WAS OUR CHILDREN AND PICKING UP THE PIECES. AFTER A FEW YEARS I FOUND MYSELF WITH SOMEONE WHO FOUND SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT ME. AND YES MY HUSBAND FOUND OUT. RECENTLY IN WHICH WE HAVE MADE IT THROUGH THOSE STRUGGLES I LEARN HE IS BACK INTO IT FULL FORCE BECAUSE WHEN I WAS AT THE HOSPITAL HAVING TESTS DONE HE WAS ON MY LAPTOP. IM SORRY BUT IT IS HORRIBLE TO A WIFE. IT MAKES YOU FEEL AS IF YOU ARE NOT WORTHY OR PRETTY ENOUGH WHATEVER. I HAVE ALWAYS TAKEN EXCELLENT CARE OF MYSELF. I COULD BE NAKED AND HE LOOKS IN MY EYES AND IGNORES THE REST. YET HE WILL GO ONLINE SECRETLY AND MASTERBATE. HE HAD A WOMAN IN HIS BED AND DOESNT TOUCH ME EVER. SO PLEASE DONT TELL SOME YOUNG BOY ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD BECAUSE IT IS IN FACT AN ADDICTION THAT CAN MAKE HIS LIFE NOTHING BUT A LIE. MOST WOMAN ARE SICKENED BY THIS BEHAVIOR AND WOULD OF LEFT YEARS BACK….I THINK I SHOULD OF. VERY HURT ANGRY AND TIRED OF THIS BS….ITS SICK AND REPULSIVE….LETS TELL IT AS IT IS…DONT SUGAR COAT IT PLEASE.

  2. admin

    If this whole issue wasn’t so villanized and forbidden/secret your husband probably wouldn’t have become so trapped by it. Porn addiction thrives and takes hold in secrecy. Your husband obviously has deeper issues going on, such severe sex and porn addiction are usually symptoms of a deeper problem.

  3. very hurt

    sorry ted but there are no excuses and if you are blaming me, i had nothing to do with this addiction. all his late nights of working i would bring him hot meals feeling so sorry for him while he was into other things. are you blaming me for his addiction? ive never denied him sex and have been a wonderful wife and mother. im very hurt. ted for a woman who has always stood by her husbands side and loved him deeply and yes love sex, when you learn of his secret, it is degrading and makes me feel less of a person. i didnt deserve this at all. i dont think anyone would like their spouse or loved one secretly admiring thousands of other opposite sex porn views. did you know you can watch a woman on cam and tell her what to do and she will do so live? you can secretly talk alone with some of them also in a filthy discusting manner? i think when you have a spouse who has been completely into you and never denied sex its pathetic and painful. i have always been respectful enough to not share it with our children out of respect for him and its not something i believe my children need to worry about. for me it is a painful journey and it makes me sick. i wonder how much he would appreciate me getting off on thousands of porns of men? see i dont need that i want the real mccoy. i stayed in this marriage and protected him when he lost his career over it. see when you are working your boss expects just that. btw the vice president even said it was so lewd he wouldnt even go into detail of how discusting it was. he was most kind to me and felt very badly. i am looking for some sort of support. yes i am still with him but we havent discussed the fact once again i have found he is back into the disturbing adventure of porn. your comment sounded as if you are putting the blame on me…is that so? now my thoughts are what does he think when he sees our sons girlfriends? i mean seriously ted this isnt some little issue. i thank god we never had daughters….so please dont tell these young teen boys its ok…they are reaching out for help from you obviously and you saying it isnt a big deal so to say , well it is ted and they are seeking help as i am as a victim of having a man who i love enjoy the pc more than the real thing. this is how relationships end up in affairs. please give me some help…thankyou.please dont dismiss it as ok for him because it is a forbidden ordeal. would you like your partner enjoying porn over wanting you? to be so addicted it cost a career? i dont think so….i wish i knew his deep problem. he sought help when he first lost his career years ago. i thought me staying by his side for all these years going without intimacy would have some sort of importance or significance to my being as a wife. VERY HURT!

  4. Andrew

    I use to think porn was harmless. But I was addicted. I was 41, married, two kids, and I got absorbed into it. I looked at porn, started “chatting” on-line…then my wife found out..and I came razor close to losing her and the kids…its still rocky.
    I am not a perv, I’m university educated, good looking, normal. Still trying to look inward and figure it all out.

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