I wonder why God brought Lisa and I to come together, and same for your situation, just for it to be ripped apart.
I am so mad at God… I have blamed him for this! What is it that this will make me stronger? Why would a good God let this happen? Everyone is telling me to give up on the situation, move on, she isn’t worth it… her mother even said that the vow of ’til death due us part refers to death of the marriage, not the person!
Her real words are this is done. My belief is that it isn’t done… I am scared of waiting and not having Lisa back.
-Richard
Dear Richard,
Thanks for your question and I understand how stressful and gut wrenching relationships can be especially when you feel a certain way and the other party feels another.
There are two things about your situation that I would like to address. The first is your concept of God. You must understand that God loves you and your wife more than anything, however, God has given each of us a free will and He will never supersede our will no matter how much we love him or pray nor because of how much He loves us. It is not God’s fault your wife left. She left because she made the choice to leave. God is not doing this to teach you a lesson and He is not enjoying the pain you are facing. Can you learn and grow through this? Yes, but God doesn’t send bad things to us for this to happen. Bad things happen because we live in a broken world full of people who have the God given right to make bad choices. God actually loves us all so much that he gave everyone the gift of a free will.
Secondly, I can’t begin to understand how your marriage died or all the circumstances involved, however, if you want your marriage to be restored then keep believing and do whatever it takes to win back the heart of the one you love. If counseling is required, go. If you need to change jobs, do it. Let her see that you love her more than anything else in your life. Dead marriages are brought back to life everyday and I know several couples that were at the brink of divorce but now their marriages are stronger than they ever were.
Instead of being mad at God pray to him that He will show you how to love your wife more than anything and that He will give you the strength to endure the pain and the strength to love your wife even though she isn’t showing you love at the moment.
However, remember that your wife could still choose to walk away and that is her choice. Do you love her enough to let her go? That is true love, when we love someone enough to give them the freedom to choose us or walk away. This is how God loves us.
Kindest regards,
Ted
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