Comments on: Ask a Counselor: Should I Tell the Truth?

By: admin

admin — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 08:41:00 +0000

Thanks for your comment Maria it’s good to hear from someone who’s been there

By: Maria

Maria — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 08:16:40 +0000

Hey, I used to self harm too and eventually my mom found out after seeing my scars. She delt with it really well and was really upset but also really supportive. I was forced to stop out of fear of hurting my mom and also I did not want to be put on medication. Eventually I had to go to the Doctor because there were obvious deep rooted issues that I had not been able to resolve alone. However I was embarrased to talk to my physciatrist and nothing really got resolved. I did stop self harming but my depression did not. Eventually I started venting my problems in other more serious ways such as anorexia and drugs. This nearly killed me. It got to the stage where I was going to be admitted to hospital. I knew I had to change or I was going to die. Although I still have health problems today as a result of it, I’m healthier and happier because I talked about the issues that were affecting my life. You need to speak out. Hiding your issues and covering them up will not make them go away. From the ages of 13 to 17 I suffered from clinical depression because I was too scared to talk about things that had affected me. I can’t believe I wasted so many years being so unhappy! You need to speak out, you owe it too yourself! Your mom will get over it. She may be upset, yes. But it will be nothing in comparison to your own torment. Please make the right decision. Good luck.

By: sabrina

sabrina — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 21:33:58 +0000

sorry for wasting you time because i know you want me to tell my mum but i cant tell her. and sorry for telling you that i was gonna tell her but then changed my mind because couldnt get the courage to face her reaction and what will happen afterwards. sorry again.

By: sabrina

sabrina — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 21:28:56 +0000

Because cutting is bad and i cant beleive myself that ive did that , i knew it was bad but i needed to something to feel better but i still knew it was bad thats why i cant tell her cuz if i feel bad about it myself i cant beleive her plus i cant beleive that i used that solution and that i did it for 1 year in a half. i stopped for only that reason because myself i knew it was getting too far cuz i always wanted to do more and because i had scars and because i didnt want my mum to find out so i stopped. whats the point to tell her i did that if ive stopped. Plus i dont want her to know why i did it, and about the thoughts there wrong I dont really want my mum to know she might over reacte to know i have them But anyways even if i have them i wont actually do anything so it doesnt really matter, i know myself that if i was going to do something i would of already did something. Plus the reason why i dont wanna tell her is because of Her reaction she might be sad or mad and think its her fault or she might be mad that i cut myself and send me to a doctor or something then i will be considerd as stupid. I dont want that because im not stupid im a perfectly normal teenager. Plus i dont want anyone to know how ive been feeling for almost 2 years now not happy and sad. Only i will know. Only me no one else. Thats why i dont wanna tell my mum. I know for me the best thing would be to tell her but i cant. Right now i dont cut anymore so its all good and i wont do it again and the Thoughts it doesnt matter cuz i wont do anything even if i have them somethimes.

By: admin

admin — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:01:43 +0000

It would be nice if things would just go away and they might for a season, but I assure you the issues that caused you to cut, have suicidal thoughts at times and be sad will surely return if they are not dealt with. Trust me, the only way to have a happy, well adjusted life is to confront your issues head on and deal with them. Tell the truth, face your fears and live abundantly. Why are you so fearful about telling your mom?

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 05:22:51 +0000

i feel like a total liying girl i said i was gonna tell my mum i was actually going to i even wrote a lette explaned everything in it and all but i couldnt give it to her. i cant let her know. but i dont cut anymore so its good and about the thoughts i dont do it anyways even if i get them so it doesnt really matter because i wont actually do it.. all i have to do it waite and everything will go away im sure it will only be almost 2 years now im sure everything will go away by itself if i beleive.. and try to be happy..

By: admin

admin — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 18:57:36 +0000

Glad to hear you’ve decided to tell her and you are correct in believing you need someone professionally to talk to.They will be able to help you uncover the underlying causes of your sadness desire to self harm. and now suicidal thoughts. You have a bright future ahead and I commend you for taking the right steps in order to experience the great things in store your life in the future.

By: sabrina

sabrina — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 06:31:01 +0000

Heey i didnt tell my mum yet sense i just got your message…
but i will do it ohh and just for you to know the thing i used to do is self harm thats why i dont want peoples to know.. but now i dont do it anymore but everything is getting out of hand because i have bad thoughts in my head these days. thank you soo much i will say the truth… and tell her and tell her i need profesional help because i feel sad and down most of the time and to cope that i used to cut myself and that now its more worse and i have suacide thoughts but even know i wont do it, its annoying to think about those things so for sure im telling her tomarrow as soon as i wake up..