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I had gotten into a relationship with Tracy about a year ago. At that time she was recently divorced and dating a married man that she worked with.
I wanted to save her from this bad relationship and told her that I wanted to continue to see her. I was also very intrigued and attracted to her, so I continued to see her, and started to fall in love. Today we are in love with each other, the married man has moved on to someone else, but since she works with him, it still lingers, and I’m not sure she has put total closure on that.
We have our ups and downs, probably more than we should. We feel it’s because she hasn’t been alone since she was separated and divorced. I have had a tight hold on her hoping I don’t lose her. I know if I continue this, I will lose her.
We have such an amazing chemistry and attraction towards each other and really like a lot about each other. We love our time together, when it’s good, it’s amazing, but she seems so confused and scared sometimes about whether this is the right relationship for her or whether she should be in one at all. She wants me to hold on loosely to her because she doesn’t want to loose me either.
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Mar
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I wonder why God brought Lisa and I to come together, and same for your situation, just for it to be ripped apart.
I am so mad at God… I have blamed him for this! What is it that this will make me stronger? Why would a good God let this happen? Everyone is telling me to give up on the situation, move on, she isn’t worth it… her mother even said that the vow of ’til death due us part refers to death of the marriage, not the person!
Her real words are this is done. My belief is that it isn’t done… I am scared of waiting and not having Lisa back.
-Richard
Dear Richard,
Thanks for your question and I understand how stressful and gut wrenching relationships can be especially when you feel a certain way and the other party feels another.
There are two things about your situation that I would like to address. The first is your concept of God. You must understand that God loves you and your wife more than anything, however, God has given each of us a free will Read the rest of this entry »
I have three best friends and then one of them (Sarah) is only hanging out with my other best friend (Morgan). All they do is exclude my other best friend (Julia) and I. It is so awkward when we go places together because Sarah never lets me in on anything. We were never in a fight, so I don’t think I need to apologize for anything.
I want to get to know Sarah better for who she is. I don’t really know her that well because all she does is copy people. What should I do? I don’t want to lose her as a friend, but I also want her be more open to everybody. We were recently at a dance and she ditched Julia and I. Her and Morgan would just run off together without telling us. This has really made me frustrated lately and I don’t know what to do. Thank you.
-Libsta
Dear Libsta,
Thanks for your question and I understand how difficult friendships can be at times. I can give you some advice and if you take it to heart, you will be Read the rest of this entry »
Where do I begin, I am your typical teenager with unique qualities, thoughts, and dreams. I like to draw, I write poems, and I’m pretty healthy…I hope.
However, I cant seem to figure out why it’s so hard for me to get out of bed in the morning or why I suddenly get tired and don’t want to do anything, now it’s not laziness because I’m up and about playing with kids, working out, and I’m hyperactive. I could say I just enjoy sleeping, but I believe its a little more complex than that, like I emotionally depend on sleep.
There are only 3 things I find of high importance which are food, sleep, and music. I’m not overweight, I’m very skinny actually. Yes, once upon a time I was depressed, but I got over that or at least I thought. It might not seem like a problem, but it effects me greatly like my memory or getting up for school, I just don’t have the will power anymore. Read the rest of this entry »
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Mar
06
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I’ll try to make this short — but there really is a lot involved. Most of which probably won’t get touched on here.
We have been married for 13 1/2 years, and I can probably count the number of times we’ve slept together on both hands. During the beginning of our marriage, sex was more frequent – maybe once every couple of months, but we have not had relations now in 8 years.
What’s worse yet, we have had no communication about it – at all. How did we get here? – i don’t know. We do not believe in divorce, but I question how do I stay. I’m tired of being rejected and basically stopped trying. Why bother? If I try to bring it up in conversation, he get’s defensive, shuts down, and won’t talk. I gave up on that too and how do you “just bring it up” again?
I don’t know what to do anymore and I feel like a maid or a roommate instead of a wife. I really want the marriage to work, but I didn’t sign up for this. I’m not looking for it every night, but 8 years without? I don’t think I’m being unreasonable. Read the rest of this entry »
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