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I have been married now for 12 years and have been with my husband for 15. I have been battling with his addiction to porn the whole time. He also continues to seek out attention from other females. About 6 years ago after we had our son, one day he just up and left me and as I started to find out things. He was seeing another woman. He still to this day claims that it was only a friend. After that we reconciled.
About 6 months later while he was working out of town he started acting strange every time I go near or tried to look at his phone, and then I found out he as talking with some girl that was a receptionist at the hotel he was staying at when he was out of town. I did get to speak with her and she was very sorry claiming that she had no idea he was married and had kids. His excuse for the situation was that he was trying to set her up with a friend of his at work but the girl claimed that there was no friend.
Another incident was when I got a phone call from a girl, who would not give me her name, telling me that she was having sex with him. She knew a lot about him, even down to the fact that he had a particular pair of underwear. His excuse this time was he had no clue who it was and that nothing was going on.
For the last year, he has been on a particular social networking Read the rest of this entry »
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Well my name is Lia or Lianna and I am 17 years of age. I thought I had my life all figured out until I realized that I’m not happy. I was going to go into University for the Science’s. I had everything all planed and ready with of course my goals set high.
During the middle of my semester I got extremely ill and was out of school for month’s with chronic pain. Hospital, doctors, drugs… you name it. I suddenly saw myself give up in school and my grades paid for it. So here I am my senior year, with all my sciences and maths dropped and feeling as if I can’t do it anymore… in the back of my mind I still feel that I am going to get sick again or something terrible will happen… (I went through a lot of rough times that traumatized me I’m trying to get back to normal). Read the rest of this entry »
I am attempting to reunited with a child of mine who is 11 years old. I have never been a part of her life but, I have found myself to be a good father to my sons who are 6 and 8.
I have no ill will toward mother and I am wondering what kind of plan I should adopt to slowly make contact? The mother and I are in agreement that it is time.
-Joe
Dear Joe,
This can definitely be Read the rest of this entry »
I have this friends who copies me and my other best friend ALL the time. I wear a black headband, then she buys the same exact one. I take out my phone because I am texting someone and then she takes out her phone and just clicks “contacts” and then clicks “end” just to look like she’s texting too.
When someone tells a joke or says something funny, she looks at me to see if I am laughing and then if I am, she starts laughing too. I know it might be because she admires me, but it is really getting to me. I need an answer on how to stop this. Should I tell her to stop copying me? I don’t know how to resolve this.
Thanks,
Libby
Dear Libby,
Thanks for sharing your situation and this can be common Read the rest of this entry »
I was wondering how to make the thought of my therapist moving far away easier. I have been going to a therapist for three months, I feel I have a great connection with her, and I feel like it will be really hard to cope with her being so far away. What can I do to make this easier? Is it ok if I ask her if I can stay in touch?
-Susan
Dear Susan,
This is quite common in a client and counselor relationship. The fact that you have been sharing intimate details with your therapist creates a deep connection. However, it’s important to remember that you are paying her to listen and help. She is not a friend per say. It’s important to keep this relationship in the right place in your mind and that is one of a professional client/counselor. Don’t get me wrong, these relationships can be special, but they are always just for a season. I would advise you to not put your counselor in a position where she would have to make an ethical decision. Perhaps she could refer you to another counselor with a similar style and philosophy?
All the best,
Ted
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