I am a so called Christian, born in a Christian family. I go to a Baptist church, I have been to several denominations of churches such as Pentecost, Brethren, and the Church of England….

-Clifford

Dear Clifford,

Thanks for your question and I think you’re not alone in your dissatisfaction with religion and it’s inability to help you find God in a deep, meaningful, and personal way.

First, I would challenge your belief that somehow you have to try hard to follow Christ. This is actually quite far from what the gospel really is. Christ Died in our place and rose so we could live abundantly with him. It was a free gift, not something we have to earn or work for. So the first thing I would tell you is to stop trying, working, striving etc. Read the rest of this entry »

This is one question that I hear a lot and it deserves some time and thought especially when it seems that  many Christians are more messed up sexually than those not having a particular faith.

Growing up in church, I was taught that any sexual acts or thoughts outside of marriage was wrong and lustful and of course the Bible was used as justification of this. Also, sexual sin was put up on a pedestal as being the worst while other sins were acceptable or minor. For instance, don’t masturbate, but it’s Ok if I pleasure myself with 5 plates of food at the church pot luck.

If the Bible is a sexual manual, what would it tell us?

• More than one wife is acceptable. Read the rest of this entry »

Why does it hurt so much?

I’m continuously being disciplined by being excluded from meetings at church like prayer meetings and invitations to join certain groups.

I really want to be a part of everything, but am being shut out. We’ve been faithful for over 20 years and have never been difficult. I feel the leaders are putting people against me and I haven’t done any wrong to any of them.

-Jenny

Dear Jenny,

No one likes being excluded Read the rest of this entry »