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This is one question that I hear a lot and it deserves some time and thought especially when it seems that many Christians are more messed up sexually than those not having a particular faith.
Growing up in church, I was taught that any sexual acts or thoughts outside of marriage was wrong and lustful and of course the Bible was used as justification of this. Also, sexual sin was put up on a pedestal as being the worst while other sins were acceptable or minor. For instance, don’t masturbate, but it’s Ok if I pleasure myself with 5 plates of food at the church pot luck.
If the Bible is a sexual manual, what would it tell us?
- More than one wife is acceptable. Read the rest of this entry »
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Jun
21
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I am 27 years old and married 3 years back. I had a boyfriend before marriage. We were in love, but I was very stubborn and thought that I should marry only a Christian.
So I didn’t marry him and married some guy whom my parents told me to marry. My boyfriend and I couldn’t forget each other. We became more close as we were missing each other and two times we had sex during my marriage. We did not have it before my marriage.
We have been in love for 3 years. My husband is very good man. Now I am not able to avoid my boyfriend at all. He can’t forget me and even i can’t forget him. Should I still try to end our relationship somehow or should l tell my husband what happened and get out of this marriage? My husband loves me so I’m afraid it will hurt him. I’m feeling very guilty cheating my husband, but I would move the world for my boyfriend.
-Lilly
Dear Lily,
Thanks for writing and sharing your situation with us. It is pretty obvious to me that you married the wrong guy. Read the rest of this entry »
For the past twenty years I have volunteered my time serving as the Senior Pastor’s Administrative Assistant. My husband and I have a long time personal relationship with the Senior Pastor, his wife and daughter, often times vacations or attending conferences together.
One of my main responsibility is to oversee and coordinate all church events. This past Easter holiday the church hosted a large Easter Egg Hunt that drew a crowd of approximately 350 people. Several church department were involved and months of meetings had gone into planning the event. Postcards were printed and mailed throughout the community inviting them to bring their children to hunt for candy filled eggs and prize eggs. The Sunday School Department Director, who is the Senior Pastor’s wife, was responsible was purchasing and hiding the eggs.
At some point she made the decision not to fill the eggs with candy and instead placed out empty eggs. The eggs were purchased weeks in advance of the event but the fact that the eggs were empty was never shared with anyone else on the planning committee including her husband, the Senior Pastor. She also chose not to be present at the event. Read the rest of this entry »
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Mar
31
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I am 50 year old single Male who has been unemployed now for 2 + years and struggling to find a job in this economy. In addition, I live with my wonderful parents who are very loving – were it not for them I would surely be homeless. My family and I are also looking to move from this area. Everything is piling up. I have also had not the best luck in getting along with peers and in the past I made several mistakes of which I have come to regret and hope the past does not come back to haunt me. Luckily, none of these mistakes were crimes–I have always tried to lead a clean life with no smoking, no drinking, and no drugs.
How can I find inner peace when everything seems to be going wrong and I have no idea where I am headed? I wish I had a decent church to attend but the ones that are closest to my denomination (the ones that stress Bible over ritual) are very tiny and they do not have prayer groups though I called most of them. Please advise. Thanks.
-Donald
Dear Donald,
Thanks for writing and it sounds like you have been dealing with a lot lately. I believe that inner peace is achieved by doing 3 things. Learning to love God, yourself, and others. When we can love God and accept that He loves us just as we are then we can love ourselves, when we love ourselves, we can love others without agenda. Read the rest of this entry »
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Mar
05
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I am a so called Christian, born in a Christian family. I go to a Baptist church, I have been to several denominations of churches such as Pentecost, Brethren, and the Church of England….
I am 27yr old and I have also studied theology for 2 years, but I still haven’t found the Lord. I have been trying hard to walk according to the bible and the teachings of Christ, but the worldly pleasures and the lustful things don’t allow me to do so! How can I overcome all this and follow Christ.
Why doesn’t Christ help and prove to me his existence?
-Clifford
Dear Clifford,
Thanks for your question and I think you’re not alone in your dissatisfaction with religion and it’s inability to help you find God in a deep, meaningful, and personal way.
First, I would challenge your belief that somehow you have to try hard to follow Christ. This is actually quite far from what the gospel really is. Christ Died in our place and rose so we could live abundantly with him. It was a free gift, not something we have to earn or work for. So the first thing I would tell you is to stop trying, working, striving etc. Read the rest of this entry »
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