Archive for the ‘Mind’ Category
I have been with my wife for 9 years, been married for 3. She has always been an on and off sufferer from depression. I got with her when she was nearly 15 and I had just turned 18. We moved in together just 2 years later and had a really healthy, very close relationship.
She had controlled most of my life since the start of the relationship, but we were always still very much in love and respected one another. However, in October 2009 she was diagnosed with severe depression. She had a light mental breakdown. Since then she has lost her job as she was bullied out in February.
My wife will change from day to day and morning to afternoon, she can be completely filled with rage and anger, she is extremely argumentative. In our relationship we hardly ever have fall outs and when we do, its either the alcohol or a complete misunderstanding caused by my wife’s recent depression.
In the last few months my wife has now gotten worse. She is seeing her psychotherapist once a month which may increase now. She has said she is not herself and needs to be away from normality in order to get better. She is staying with a friend 2 miles away, and she has been there for the last week. Am I doing the right thing in supporting her by saying yes have your space to do this and find your feet?
The worries I have is that since the counseling over the last few months, She is drinking more Read the rest of this entry »
Back in 2006, my best friend passed away and ever since then, the only thing that people tell me is that I need to move on. And whenever I try to do something to keep my friends memory alive, if someone that knew her found out, I would get my head chewed of for it. but I want to keep her memory alive. I want people to know what she did for me. I’m just so confused. I’m not sure what to do.
This has gotten me so stressed out that I just can’t stand it. I’ve even started thinking about wanting to end everything, but I’m too afraid to do anything, which is making things worse, I think. I’m not sure what to do. please help?
-Live4Jesus1990
Dear Live4Jesus1990,
Thanks for writing in and I understand how hard losing a friend is. It is especially something that people of your age shouldn’t have to deal with. Read the rest of this entry »
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May
31
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I’m a college student here in the Philippines. I’m having trouble building up myself again after numerous academic hardships. Because of this, I’m having trouble being comfortable with people and relationships without having to worry about what they think of me and what happened to me, particularly because of my academic hardships.
I have been held back for a couple of years in college. I wasn’t satisfied with the program I got into so it led me to slack of and be demotivated to study. Until finally, I was kicked out of my current program and forced to look for another one. Apparently, I found a program that was more to my liking. However, this program was looked upon as an non-prestigious and very unfamiliar program by many. From there, i tried to start all over again.
I entered college under an engineering program. Even before college, I wanted to enter the health sciences career. However, due to the school’s reputation and the prestige it may bring, my parents convinced me to go to this school instead of the other less prestigious schools but in which I had the opportunity to have a health science degree.
Apparently, having been held back for a couple of years has greatly damaged my reputation and credibility, especially to my family and friends. You see, I live in a very traditional and idealistic society Read the rest of this entry »
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May
14
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I have had a strange fetish involving leg and arm casts as well as disability since I was a teenager. I am now a respected professional and very religious as well and it is an embarrassment that I get distracted by it, masturbate about it and go into chat rooms and pretend I am disabled or wearing a cast to get attention. How do I stop this?
-Jim
Dear Jim,
Thanks for your willingness to share this very personal issue with us and I’m sure many will learn from your experience. When people are dealing with or trying to resolve some type of fetish, it’s important to try to go back in your memories and figure out when the fetish began and the reasons it began.
You said that you’ve had this since being a teenager so obviously something happened in your teen years that was not only associated with this fetish but also gave you some sort of pleasure or reward in regards to casts or disabilities. Read the rest of this entry »
Hello ! I am a 50 year old unemployed individual who is single and never married. I live with my folks and they are the only family I have. In spite of never drinking nor smoking nor doing drugs – my family and I through work and other problems wound up living in a rather negative environment with unfriendly, rather hostile people, and a highly polarized area.
As a result, I had problems finding my way and I made several mistakes I came to regret. Luckily none of them were crimes even though I am haunted to this day. My prospects are few and I worry about my health. How can I move on in a more positive manner in spite of these troubled times? I wish to go forward and not be haunted by the past. Please advise. Thanks.
-Ronald
Dear Ronald,
Thanks for writing and I think it’s great that you want to try to improve your situation in a positive manner. If you desire to live a peaceful life then this has to start within. If you don’t feel peaceful on the inside, then you can’t possibly live in peace with others.
Inner peace isn’t easy, but I believe that it comes through knowing ourselves, learning to love and accept ourselves, and ultimately Read the rest of this entry »
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