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I am attempting to reunited with a child of mine who is 11 years old. I have never been a part of her life but, I have found myself to be a good father to my sons who are 6 and 8.
I have no ill will toward mother and I am wondering what kind of plan I should adopt to slowly make contact? The mother and I are in agreement that it is time.
-Joe
Dear Joe,
This can definitely be Read the rest of this entry »
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Aug
08
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I am 16 years old and seem to be going through a hard time. I just finished moving a month ago, 8 hours away from my home town. I grew up there, and it became a part of me. Now I’m in a completely different environment and only have myself to adjust.
However, that’s not the issue. My brother is a little older than me and tends to be my mother’s favorite child. He doesn’t put his best foot forward in life and doesn’t try hard enough. He went to college for one year and barely passed, he doesn’t have a job and all he ever does is sit in his room all day on the computer. He doesn’t make an effort to go outside or go job hunting or do anything that the rest of the family would enjoy doing.
I try my best in life. I’m going to get a job shortly. I help my family with chores, I never take advantage of them, I listen to them, respect them, and always make time for them. However, my mom seems to find a better value in my brother. Read the rest of this entry »
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Aug
02
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I am fifteen. I know it sounds quite stupid for me to be asking questions on a website full of strangers but I cannot ask my friends because they are the same age as I am and it is easy for them to feel the same way I do. They also may be bias since I am their friend.
The problem is that mother continues to voice her opinion about things but it is never okay for me to voice my opinion. When I do voice my opinion she threatens to send me off to live with my father. My mother is not a-know-it-all but she just thinks that since she is older than me that she knows more than me(which is true), but I cannot seem to understand why she cannot hear my side of the story.
America has freedom of speech but my home is another country itself where there is no freedom of speech or expression. In order to stay a resident in my home you have to conform to what my mother wants. Should I just obey her although she is wrong(or right I am not sure)? Or should I just ask to be sent away to my father’s house, where another insane person lives?
-Oatmeal
Dear Oatmeal
Thanks for asking your question and this is an issue that many teens your age struggle with. Read the rest of this entry »
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Jul
19
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My age is 15 years & I’m a Muslim. My father desperately wanted me to become a orthodox Muslim or “Hafiz” so he made me go for Madarsa for 2 hours each day so I could continue my school studies.( 4 years ago)
As the Quran consists of learning its 30 books or “para” by heart, but I was not capable enough so I tried to leave but he forced me to continue so I lied about my progress (10 books up till now) but my progress is zero.
I’ve been lying for 4 years & I can’t lie anymore. So I want to tell him the truth but my father is very strict & I don’t have guts to do so, but will have to do it. So please tell me such ways so that he might forgive me for my sins. Because its about my life. So please help me in providing with such a way to tell him.
Thanks in advance,
SK
Dear SK,
Thanks for sharing your situation with me. I can’t begin to understand the complexity of this issue because of the cultural differences involved, but Read the rest of this entry »
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May
24
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I’m home schooled (No school counselor.) I am in need of support, I have experienced when I was little minor emotional abuse from my mom with statements such as “I love you, but I DO NOT like you.” She married my step-dad around this time.
Most of it started when I was 10.5 yrs old. My mom started drinking, I didn’t think much of it, until she started verbally and emotionally abusing me and my sister. Saying things like “You don’t believe in Jesus you stupid bxtch.”, “You don’t love me!”, “Stupid cxnt!”, “Eat shxt and die!”, etc. That is also when my mom started complaining about my dad. She never liked him only staying with him for my siblings, specifically my half brother. (the favorite.)
The day before my 11th birthday, my mother got really drunk and had a hangover on my birthday, therefore yelling at me for being lazy all day. I have been called a bxtch uncountable times. a stupid cxnt twice. I told her I didn’t like her drinking and I got this HUGE lecture over it, made fun of, and all this other stuff. To hide my sadness from myself, I turned into this weird hyper happy girl that I’m not sure I even know, I just act like her in front of everyone at church.
In late October I found out my mom is cheating on my dad via facebook. It really messes with my head. Cheating as in dirty chats and what not. November, I started talking to Katlin, my BEST friend. I told her everything, she knows about all of this. After I turned 12 they (my mom and stepdad) stopped going to church. Everything continued going down hill, in January I started cutting myself, I cut and cut and cut, then I lost my blade, Everytime I find it I cut and cut and cut for every little thing. Read the rest of this entry »
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