I have recently returned home after a rough year overseas in Ireland where I lived with my boyfriend.

I got very sick traveling and was in hospital and then pretty much in bed for 4 months straight. My boyfriend Wasn’t very supportive and believed my attitude was bad, and he put me down a lot to his parents. As I started to recover I fell pregnant to him and he would get so angry, yell, and call me every name because of not much at all.

One day I caught him chatting with another girl which he was supposed to meet up with and I was so upset. He just got really angry at me. I then had a miscarriage and his temper got worse everything was my fault. He was filled with bitterness for going overseas and leaving his friends for me, even though we were in Ireland where he is from.

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My best friend is being verbally abused by her parents. They constantly put her down, telling her that her that straight A grades aren’t good enough and that she isn’t good enough for them.

-Lilyclaire

Dear Lilyclaire,

I think that it’s great that you want to help your friend, she is lucky to have a friend like you, one that isn’t afraid to get her hands dirty by getting involved in a tough family situation. Read the rest of this entry »

I will try to make this as short as possible but to the point. My wife and I are both Christians. We have been married 16 years. She was a virgin when we married and STILL is today, 16+ years later. Yes, you read that correct, we have never had sex.

My wife is also very verbally abusive, all the classic signs, I never do anything right, name calling, everything is my fault, etc. and she does not think there is anything wrong with her, it is all me.

I guess I have stayed this long because for most of our marriage we were in church leadership and I did not want to be seen as a hypocrite, as I am not a fan of divorce and did not want to set a “bad” example.

We have been out of leadership for about 3 years and I’m at the point of leaving. When confronted she may be a little better for a couple of weeks, but then goes to back to her old ways.

She has no desire for me sexually, anything sexual has always been her being pleased. In fact she has stated numerous times, touching me in a sexual way is DISGUSTING. Her idea of counseling is that I go – because I need help. So what to do?

-Brett

Dear Brett

First, I would like to thank you Read the rest of this entry »

Hi, I am married to a controlling husband.

He puts me down and insults me. Whenever I speak up about how his behavior affects me, he gets extremely defensive and angry. He tells me that he is trying to help me. How does he feel that this is a normal way of helping me? I notice that he can control his anger anywhere else except when he is behind closed doors with me.

Do you feel that he is pretending to be really angry to regain control over me so that he can have his way?

-Humble 100

Dear Humble 100,

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time in your marriage. It amazes me how guys can treat their wives so horribly, yet be so nice to friends and complete strangers. Read the rest of this entry »

I’ve been self harming for 5 years, since I was 9 and I can’t seem to stop.

If you’re wondering, “Why can’t you stop?”, it’s because whenever I go for more than a couple of days without doing it, I feel really depressed, irritated and angry and I always take it out on those who care about me, or I get in trouble for it in school. My scars and cuts worry my best friends, because over the last year they have just gotten worse. None of us know what to do! I even panic about it sometimes…

I think I may be addicted to it, and I don’t know how to stop without being angry and numb all the time. I’ve not felt very happy since my dad left when I was 6, and my mum started emotionally and sometimes physically abusing me.

It seems I don’t enjoy life as much as I used to, and  thinking about death and suicide this often is not natural. What do I do?

-Mel

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