Recently I have searched his phone and found out that he was seeing this girl so I got really angry and confronted him. I must admit that I searched his Hi5 too and confronted him about that as well. He got so upset that I searched his phone and was searching through his emails that he got very abusive (verbally). He said so many bad things and it really hurt me.

This was from last week Thursday and I cried everyday since. I never knew he could have said those things about me. I must admit in the past I searched his phone b4 as well. He then said that he never meant it, he just said those things out of anger because he wanted me to stop invading his privacy.

Most of it started when I was 10.5 yrs old. My mom started drinking, I didn’t think much of it, until she started verbally and emotionally abusing me and my sister. Saying things like “You don’t believe in Jesus you stupid bxtch.”, “You don’t love me!”, “Stupid cxnt!”, “Eat shxt and die!”, etc. That is also when my mom started complaining about my dad. She never liked him only staying with him for my siblings, specifically my half brother. (the favorite.)

The day before my 11th birthday, my mother got really drunk and had a hangover on my birthday, therefore yelling at me for being lazy all day. I have been called a bxtch uncountable times. a stupid cxnt twice. I told her I didn’t like her drinking and I got this HUGE lecture over it, made fun of, and all this other stuff. To hide my sadness from myself, I turned into this weird hyper happy girl that I’m not sure I even know, I just act like her in front of everyone at church.

Now he wants me to leave them come what may, and doesn’t even respect them. He frequently abuses me in anger and once he abused my mom too. I don’t know what has happened to him of late but this is getting on my nerves, he was not like this before, but he just refuses to listen to anything. please help me. I love him very much and I know he loves me too, but I’m too stressed by his behavior. What should i do?

Anyway he caused a lot of strife with myself and my youngest son. My youngest son is now against me and sees only me as the culprit. I have been praying for my oldest son daily and have called him a few times to ask his forgiveness if I have offended him. I suggested to him that he get intervention for alcohol abuse and anger management. That did not go over well at all. My youngest son is snubbing me and not really wanting me to see my granddaughter; I am really hurt by this.

It started about 2 years ago. I would always put her down about her clothes and ask her if she was seeing someone else. I would always check her phone to see what’s on there. Also I would argue with her when I saw her out with friends on a night out. I would call her horrible words and make her upset and ashamed.

I was so horrible, but I never knew I was doing it. I thought I was normal, but it was making her life hell everyday until 2 days ago when she wanted a talk she told me how she was feeling and what I was doing but I didn’t believe her then she showed me the signs of the verbal and emotional abuse and it was exactly what I was like. I broke down in tears and felt really ill. I couldn’t believe it and I am looking for guidance and help.

I want to change so bad for myself, but especially for my partner. I know I can do it with help. My partner said she is going to help me and stick by me to get me back on track please help me.