We tried lots of times to help us both enjoy it but for some reason I never could. We ended up talking to some older friends and we thought this would help, but still on trying I have never had any enjoyment out of it, as much as I tried to get into it and let go. I still see it as dirty, or unpleasant and I am not sure if its a mind thing or something wrong physically or both.

I’m trying to make it in life because so far I’ve only been pushed down..My parents are separated and have been since I was 1 and I feel it is better that way. My mom is one of the most patient people on earth and I’ve learned that from her and my brother. My mom deals with bi-polar disorder and well my brother who is 20 years old is severely handicap with Fragile-X. We’ve lived in the projects all my life and my dad has his own problems so I’ve seen him a couples times in my lifetime.

I’ve always had a tolerance for the constant screaming and abnormal behaviors, but lately I can’t take anymore. How do I make it in life when I have my mother telling me I have to take care of my brother for the rest of my life and that I’m not allowed to go to college elsewhere then where ever he is. As I deal with high school everyone wonders why I make the choices I do. I’m not allowed to take AP classes because I have to clean the house everyday after school from top to bottom and when I did take AP classes I had to drop them because the homework took up too much time and my mom didn’t like it

Along with that I was in line for a Track scholarship but I had to quit to stay at home. I’m the president of 2 clubs but might have to quit those also because they require that I stay after school. I’m just tired of how my mom hurts me, I’m really tired of it.. I know she doesn’t mean it, but I’ve never had anyone here for me. Nobody understand what I go through. When I get straight A’s and I’m invited to a banquet celebrating the greatness of the straight A’s, I’m not allowed to go because it’s regarded as “stupid”..

A few months ago, while in training (and away from my wife and son), my wife had an affair with a family friend…and ended up falling in love with this man.

I found out about the 3 month long affair after we were re-united, and it devastated me…however, I wanted to provide the best life for my son, whom I love with all of my heart, and decided to try to work through things with my wife, mostly for my son’s sake.

My wife, to the best of my knowledge, has cut off all communication with this man, and has apologized for the affair and the hurt she caused, but now that we are once again living together at a normal military installation, I am reminded daily by her presence of the affair, and it’s putting great strain on our relationship…

Due to the nature of my job, I’m deployed about 66% of the time, and I can’t help but wonder what will happen in the future when I’m overseas…

Am I doing my son a dis-service by trying to “stick it out” but having a fairly dis-functional relationship with his mother? I grew up in a very dis-functional home and often wished that my parents would get divorced…

Please give me some advice in this matter.

Thank you,

I’m a 19 year old wife and mother of two, soon to be three kids. My husband just turned 30 and I met him when I was 15. He was my first everything. When I met him, I was being abused and my family supported it. He was all I felt I had. I didn’t want to lose him.

I dropped all my friends, guy friends and basically my high school life. 6 months before graduation I left school and married him. We had already had a baby a year before. I made him and myself believe I had no desire to be like the other girls my age and that I could be a wife. I stayed in the house for over a year and only went out with him and his family who runs our church.