Ask a Counselor: My Family is in Crisis

My husband of 16 years was arrested last month and is being deported and at the time he was the only one working. I lost my job. I have 3 kids and will be homeless in 9 days. I have been looking for any job just to survive, but with no luck. The family that I have do not believe in God and tells me to find a boyfriend. I am starting to lose faith in God.

What should I do? I love my husband, but he will be deported. My family has a “do what you got to do” attitude whether its morally or legally right. I am trying to stand strong on God’s Word and believe He will not give me more then I can bare but each day its getting harder. I need help, please, what do you think I need to do? I can not go to a shelter and I have no job what should I do.

-Karina

Dear Karina,

Thanks for sharing your problem with us. I don’t know a whole lot about your situation and it sounds like things have been emotionally draining for you.

I think this is a time that you may have to take some action in order to get things in your life back on track. I’m a believer in the power of prayer and trusting God, but I don’t see God as someone who just drops things out of the sky for us like some kind of cosmic genie, however, He does give us strength to accomplish things and the creative ability to transform our lives into what we always dreamed they can be.

This takes action on your part. You really need to get out there and keep trying to get some work, also reach out to community organizations and your church for help while your transitioning. There is no shame in going to a shelter until you get back on your feet.  Just don’t sit around and wait for miracles to happen but get out there and make the miracles happen. I think you will find there are many willing to help those in your situation. I would also advise that you stand on your own and don’t rely on some man to take care of you. Desperation does not allow us to choose a proper partner.

Don’t give up and get out there and start making things happen for you and your family. Remember it’s always darkest before the dawn and things will get better.

Kindest regards,

Ted