My Husband Has Shut Out Whole Family

MY husband has been different lately. He isn’t talking to his parents and when I try to get answers from him it just ends up to be a fight. I’m just looking for answers and can’t seem to get them. I did get a few questions answered last night, he said that he hates where we live, he hates where he works and he feels like everyone is telling him how to live his life and what to do.

He used to be a kind man and has been so cold and hard towards all of us. I mentioned to him that we are the one’s that are here for him and have been with him through everything so shutting us out can’t be a good thing. He told me that it’s heavenly for him to think about not being bothered by everyone. I’m not sure what to do anymore. He says things to be spiteful and I cry everyday.

We were supposed to go on vacation with family and he backed out. I’m still going to go because the seperation for a week may make or break us. I don’t know what to do. I know the problem doesn’t lie with us, and that it’s him but I need some guidance. Someone please help.

-Mia

Dear Mia,

Thanks for sharing your problem with me. I think just as you have figured out, that there is definitely something going on with your husband. I think that until he is ready to talk about it, you really need to just give him time and space to deal with whatever is going on.

Don’t try to force him to talk, but just be supportive and loving. Tell him that you’re there for him and that you love him, but just let him be. It’s not right that he’s being spiteful to you, but when people are under a lot of emotional stress, often the worst parts of their personalities come out. You may just have to continue to give him grace and don’t take what he says to heart.

That great guy is still there somewhere and I’m sure he’ll get there again. Hang in there.

Kindest regards,

Ted

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