I Caught My Son Looking at Porn

By | November 8, 2010

My son is a good kid with good results in his exams. But one day, when I thought he was doing his homework on the the computer, I caught him watching porn.

He then admitted he had been watching it for like 2 months without telling me, but when he told me that he was influenced by his friends, I felt sorry for him. He also told me that he felt very ashamed when he thought of his family and friends and that he could not face his ancestors.

I decided to go online and try to consult someone on my child. Please tell me what my son should do. Thank You.

-Anon

Dear Anon,

Thanks for your question and I can imagine your concern, but I think as a parent you need to understand that your son is a sexual being and it is only natural to be curious and interested in sex. This can be hard for a mother to accept as I’m sure you still your son as a little boy.

This doesn’t mean he’s a bad kid, it just means he’s human and becoming a man. I think it’s important to not make a huge deal out of him looking at porn. Just talk with him and help him to understand that porn isn’t the best way to explore his sexuality as it devalues people and takes advantage of them.

Make sure your son knows that he can talk to you about sexual things and that you won’t freak out. Maybe his father or another adult male you trust and he respects would be of help for him to ask questions to?

In any event, most guys out there have looked at porn at one time or another so your son is pretty normal, Just make sure your son knows that his feelings are natural and teach him more constructive ways to deal with them.

Kind regards,

Ted

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