Ask: I Had a Strange Dream About My Friend

Ok, so I had this dream and it wasn’t the first, this is the one that I remember the most though. I feel like it was kind of a nightmare .. But I liked it? Okay so one of my best friends is Miguel , we got along so quickly and we’ve been their for each other for everything. But I’ve mostly been their for all his problems.

I’ve always known he’s liked this one girl and she’s brought so many problems. I still believe he likes her. Last time I heard he loves her, but the only problem is that she doesn’t. I never thought of liking him.

In the dream it was senior year, and I was really upset that my parents weren’t making my graduation. As I was getting ready in the bathroom of the place I heard 2 voices. “I can’t see her anywhere” said one voice, the next said “no she must be around somewhere” . Suddenly it clicked it was him. It seemed like I was so happy and yet I didn’t know what to say so somehow he knew I was in there and slid a note under the door. “Please come out, I don’t want to scare you.”

It seemed so likely of him, so I stopped getting ready can came out bare foot. I came out and he had beautiful flowers all different colors. At that point I didn’t know what to say I just ran up and hugged him, and for some reason I kissed him in the cheeks , I kissed him and seduced him, I believe and then I went for the kiss. When I tried to make out with him he said, no not yet. And I snapped out of it.

I wanted to so badly , he was so appropriate and now I think I love him? Or was it just a dream, can’t mean anything, right? If I do take my feelings from this dream , could I risk losing him as a friend? What if he doesn’t like me at all? These were all questions I thought about.

Back to the dream , I just stared at him and looked how nice he dressed just for me, all he did , just by showing up made a difference. I remember in the dream, I said I had to go get my shoes (heels which had some sort of laces. He went to go get them and gently put them on me feeling me legs, I felt like I couldn’t resist him being their . At that moment I never felt I loved him that much and I went for the kiss again. He didn’t turn back anymore. He took me to the ceremony and held my hand the whole way.

That’s what happened in the dream, I’m worried because I’m graduating next year, what could this mean?! I kind of feel these dreams are wrong, I think I should just be friends with him. HELP!

-Dayannpazmino

Dear Dayannpazmino,

Thanks for writing and sharing your dream and situation with me. I think dreams are cool and also a tool we can use to better understand ourselves and what’s really going on inside.

Dreams are known as “the windows to the sub-conscience” and while some strange dreams might be the result of that pizza we ate before going to bed, others really clue us in to what we are feeling deep down, often things that we are afraid of or don’t want to admit to ourselves.

I think this dream reveals that you do have feelings for your friend and the fact that you’ve had a similar dream more than once even further testifies to this. Falling in love with a close friend can be a scary and risky thing because there is always a chance that the feelings aren’t mutual. However, I think it’s better to “have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.”

I would advise you to really spend some time exploring these feelings and then talk with your friend about them. It doesn’t have to be a full on talk where you express your love for him, but one that just opens the door. You could ask him if he ever thought about asking you out or ever considered a relationship with you. This could give you a good idea of where he is at.

I think you should follow your heart, but at the same time be a little cautious. It’s great to take risks as long as you understand that some will pay off while others wont and that is just life. So I encourage you to take a few steps and see what this dream is trying to tell you.

All the best,

Ted

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