I Might Be In Love With My Best Friend

I am writing this because I am very confused right now. I have this best friend named Diondra and she means the world to me. We have been super close for like three years now and we tell each other everything. She has never had a boyfriend or anything and I was always the one in a relationship. She always kinda seemed to dislike my boyfriends but I didn’t think much of it and now she is getting close to having a boyfriend and getting into a relationship. Recently she has been super close to me physically ie. Hugging, touching, but nothing weird or anything. She keeps asking me if I think that she is acting weird cause she says she feels weird.

She likes to cuddle more, which is totally out of the ordinary I mean I am a very touchy person while she is not, but recently she has been all over me. We have had borderline flirty conversations recently, involving how I can prove that I love her more and little things like that, but nothing direct was ever said. But she is still really up and down, one day she wants nothing to do with this guy and all with me and the next she is walking out the door to go see him. I love Diondra with all my heart and have given up a lot for her in the little things. 

About a year or so into our relationship, I began to think of her differently. She was always so anti-gay that I kept it completely under wraps and Its not like a was screaming to tell her or depressed or anything, just a feeling I had that was more than friends.

I am just really confused, because I think she might like me as more than friends. I just think that maybe since my feelings for her are more, that I can’t clearly see her meaning and can’t read her actions. Could you please help me? I’m at the point where I would talk to her I just don’t know what to say.

-Randijean

Dear Randijean,

Thanks for sharing this confusing situation with me. From what you’ve written it sounds like you both think of each other more than friends. You have developed a very intimate relationship with her and I think you owe it to each other to be honest about your feelings.

I think anyway you initially bring this up will be uncomfortable, but perhaps you should just tell her who much you love her and how much she means to you. This can get the ball rolling. I think she probably has similar feelings for you so I don’t see you being rejected. Either way, you need to have this issue settled in your heart and head so you can be at peace. If you both love each other then you can make plans together, but if the feelings aren’t the same you can begin the process of moving on.

Love is a precious gift and I think it’s great whenever two people connect deeply. It’s one of the great joys of life and makes life worth living. Just keep your heart open to loving others and being loved and you’ve unlocked one of the secrets of life.

Kind regards,

Ted