Dear Nina,

Thanks for sharing your situation. It sounds like your husband made those vows under the wrong pretense. I’m not sure what game he’s trying to play with you, with himself, or with God, but this is wrong.

Do you think he is gay and trying to live a double life? It sure could be a possibility from my perspective. Part of the marriage vows are to love and cherish. He’s isn’t loving you or cherishing you and you deserve a man that will. Don’t waste your life in this type of sham marriage to satisfy some illusion your husband feels he needs to in order to fit into society or whatever.

God is full of grace even for failed marriages and He is not sitting in judgement, but wants you to love, be loved, and to have abundant life. Vows only mean something when they are sealed with the heart and it’s obvious that your husband’s vows are not.

Kindest regards,

Ted