My Friend Copies Me All the Time

I have this friends who copies me and my other best friend ALL the time. I wear a black headband, then she buys the same exact one. I take out my phone because I am texting someone and then she takes out her phone and just clicks “contacts” and then clicks “end” just to look like she’s texting too.

When someone tells a joke or says something funny, she looks at me to see if I am laughing and then if I am, she starts laughing too. I know it might be because she admires me, but it is really getting to me. I need an answer on how to stop this. Should I tell her to stop copying me? I don’t know how to resolve this.

Thanks,

Libby

Dear Libby,

Thanks for sharing your situation and this can be common among friends your age. I think you should be flattered that she thinks so much of you that she wants to copy you. Also you never know all that she’s been through in life especially what has caused her to be afraid to be herself.

I think you should sit down with your friend and as loving as possible explain how the copying makes you uncomfortable and encourage her to be her own person. Point out the things you really like about her so it doesn’t seem like you are just dogging her. Just be honest and speak from your heart.

Kind regards,

Ted

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