My Future Might Be Ruined Because of an Illness

Well my name is Lia or Lianna and I am 17 years of age. I thought I had my life all figured out until I realized that I’m not happy. I was going to go into University for the Science’s. I had everything all planed and ready with of course my goals set high.

During the middle of my semester I got extremely ill and was out of school for month’s with chronic pain. Hospital, doctors, drugs… you name it. I suddenly saw myself give up in school and my grades paid for it. So here I am my senior year, with all my sciences and maths dropped and feeling as if I can’t do it anymore… in the back of my mind I still feel that I am going to get sick again or something terrible will happen… (I went through a lot of rough times that traumatized me I’m trying to get back to normal).

But I feel like a bit of a failure as well for dropping the courses… I don’t know what to do! I have no idea what to take in University and I always have this huge fear at the back of my mind. Like a giant elephant in the room or something. I don’t know weather to try again and try and stay positive if my illness gets worse or to just give up because maybe the fear in the back of my mind will come true after all.

-Terrified Teen

Dear Terrified Teen,

Thanks for sharing your situation with us and an illness can scare the best of us. You really have to decide how you are going to spend the rest of your life. Will it be living in fear or will it be determined to make the most out of life and never to give up?

I think if you had the desire to go into the math and science field then still pursue that path. Maybe you’ll have to take some extra remedial courses but it will be worth it if that’s the desire of your heart. Nothing else you choose could fit quite right.

I also think that you should be talking with a counselor on a regular basis because you could be suffering from some post traumatic stress due to your serious illness and the fear something like that can create. Anyone of us could drop dead or be killed tomorrow and we aren’t guaranteed anything beyond the moment so we have to keep living and do the best with the time we are given.

I encourage you to get back in the game of living and strive to become everything you always dreamed of becoming as those dreams might just come true.

All the best,

Ted

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Comments (1)

Anna Murray October 24th, 2011 at 4:49 pm

I am having similar problems,I really feel I can’t manage university and that I may just fail out.I wanted so much to be here but now I just want to run. I cry everyday and there is this constant battle within as I try to keep my spirits up.I am at the bottom of my class and it just sucks!!

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