My Girlfriend Wants a Break

My girlfriend and I have been together for a couple years now. We met in college and have a good relationship through the years. We would never fight, neither of us are angry people by any means. Our relationship was good, but not perfect, we did have our faults as does any relationship. She graduated one year prior to myself, she moved to the city which about 3 hours away from where I went to school, so we did the long term relationship for about a year. We managed to make it work talking, texting, visiting about every two weeks and mixing things up as far as dates or activities as we would see each other.

I recently finished school, left my job and moved closer to the city and her. Instead of 3 hours it was about 20 min. My high school friend housed me until I could find an APT. or house, while she lived with her friend. After about 2 months we had a discussion about taking a break. In the discussion she mentioned, “I think we need time and space to figure things out”, “I think we need a break”, and “I’m not ready to be single and mingle by any means”. So after our discussion I felt time in space is respectable, and I would honor that for her. She is a strong Christian, works hard all the time 9-5 every day, goes to college for her masters, and is very independent.

She also mentioned how she still wanted to check in, to make sure everything was alright and everything. So I would call about once a week to check in to catch up and so on. Three weeks ago she called and it seemed as if she wanted to talk more than just once a week. At this point I would text her every couple of days, telling her to have a good day or simply nice texts showing I care. Last week she called and she said she still needed time and didn’t know how much time would be needed. She wanted to take down our relationship status on Facebook, that she just wanted to be herself and didn’t want that relationship status.

Its been two weeks, I haven’t talked to her, I sent her a text letting her know I was safe after my travels and haven’t returned her calls or texts. I don’t know how long a break is suppose to last or what my role in this situation is or should be. I gave some space and it seemed as if you wanted less so I tried that and now it seems as if she needs more, so I’m honoring that. In my opinion I feel as if it should only take a couple weeks to figure things out. I don’t want to wait forever if she isn’t going to come back. This is a new start to my life, I don’t want to date someone else but if this is never going to end, I would like to start dating. I don’t know how to handle a break or what protocol is for a situation like this.

-Nick

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