My Husband and I Had a Threesome

By | February 23, 2011

I have been married for 2 years, I am 21 years old. No children. Well me and my husband had a threesome. Not once, twice. With the same girl. She’s a very good friend of mine for about 3 years now. I feel horrible about it. I just feel so disgusted with myself. I know it was wrong. I drank too much and I just wasn’t thinking.. Please I need advice. I have no one to talk too.

-Amber

Dear Amber,

Thanks for sharing this with me and I can see why you are upset. I think that first, you have to realize that we are all human and we therefore make mistakes. Don’t be too hard on yourself but allow this situation to teach you some important lessons about yourself and your relationship with your husband.

It seems to me that there is something lacking in you and your husband’s relationship, whether it be sexually or emotionally. I think that a healthy, intimate relationship will have enough spark and passion on its own without the temporary excitement of bringing in a third person. Use this situation to really open up some good communication between you and your husband and figure out how you can love each other better.

Maybe some marriage counseling could help get the relationship on the right track. Some may say that there is nothing wrong with having a threesome as long as all parties are willing, but I think nothing good ever comes from threesomes and it usually ends up destroying the marriage. Just don’t let that happen but use this situation to learn how to love each other better and more passionately.  Unfortunately, things with your friend could be very uncomfortable now. You may have to let that relationship go for the sake of your marriage.

Kindest regards,

Ted

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One thought on “My Husband and I Had a Threesome

  1. D

    you are kidding me right? she is 21 and wants to have some fun. I will assume that her husband is younger too and really wants to have some fun. its not about missing something in your marriage, its about exploring eachothers sexual boundries. Everyone has their sexual “demons”-as you would put it, and yes we ALL know the risks. Poor Amber just feels terrible because she let her fantasy or her husbands fanasty come true. As long as they trust eachother and that FULL open lines of communication with what they are confortable with. Dont knock the poor girls marriage if you an’t willing to let your hair loose.

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