My Husband has Sexual Problems

I fear my husband has severe mental issues that I cannot risk my children being around. We have been married less than 4 months and some things are just plain wrong!

Before we got married, I noticed he does a lot of porn searches and erotic story searches about incest. Then I found out he had an affair with a transvestite (before we met) but I thought it was because he was messed up from his first deployment. He tried to cheat on me while we were still engaged by meeting up with a woman online, but she didn’t meet him after she found out he was engaged. I confronted him on it and he just didn’t know why he does these things.

Recently, about a few weeks ago his ex sent him naughty pictures on his phone which I saw on his mobile log, which I also confronted him about and he didn’t receive the pics on his phone yet so he had no idea.  Since then he cut her line and deleted her from everything… phone, fb, etc. Just tonight I found some disturbing emails between him and his cousin (not related by blood since he is adopted) in the past about “having some fun” after he got back from his last deployment (that was before we met).

I realize that technically they are not related but I still think it’s pretty sick and I have no idea what to do? He’s perfect when he’s being normal but somehow something sexual always has to cross his mind and cause him to do or “try to do” some messed up sick stuff.

Need_Help_808

Dear Need_Help_808,

Thanks for sharing your situation with me. Why on earth did you marry this guy? You had all the warning signs screaming at you in the face, but you still chose to marry him. We’re you that desperate and lonely that you convinced yourself that this wouldn’t end badly?

My advice is to leave this guy and get your marriage annulled or file for divorce. You’re right in saying your kids shouldn’t be around him as he sounds like he isn’t a good role model at all and maybe even a threat to their safety. I hope you have learned from this situation and the next time you’re in a relationship, you’ll head the warning signs and end things before they become too complicated.

All the best,

Ted