Saving a Marriage

This page offers resources and advice on how to build stronger marriages, saving a marriage, and stopping divorce.

Saving a marriage is always the best option unless someone is being physically or emotionally damaged by the marriage. In that case, saving the marriage shouldn’t be considered.

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Making Up

Marital Sex Issues

9 thoughts on “Saving a Marriage

  1. dave

    married 26 years,she has been distance to me in the romance department, she said its just something she’s going through,she also thinks it the beginning of menopause I need help understanding how to coupe and hoping that’s there is no other reason’s

  2. onley25andlonley

    i have been married almost 4 years to a very selfish person who cheats on me every chance he gets … its kinda like wene its good its good but wene its bad words cant desribe i have changed every thing about me thinkin it would change him im at a lost for words i feel like im just goin through the mostions

  3. Dawn

    My husband and I have been together for 22 years and married for 9. We have two children together but have recently separted 4 months ago. Our marriage sucked and we just pushed each other away. He grew close to a co-worker and thought she was all that, even tho she is happily married. I think he still has feelings for her but is coming to realize that he should/wants to be home with his family. Don’t know if I can accept the fact he may have fallin in love with someone else and that maybe if she became available he would go for it and leave me again. Do I take that chance? Also with all this I have lost 50 pounds and I am now very slim and trim….I have recently found myself attracted to other females and would like to explore….with and without my husband. Of course I have talked about this to him and he’s all game but don’t know if I can actually let him be with another woman….but I want to be (I think) I am so confused and don’t know what to do. Any advice?
    Thanks

  4. admin

    Hi Dawn, It sounds like you have some soul searching to do. It sounds like both you and your husband should see a couples counselor and both sort through this stuff. Perhaps your marriage can be saved but perhaps not but at least you will have given it an honest shot.
    If you want to explore your feelings for females, I would advise you to wait until you have had some counseling. I wouldn’t want you to do something you would later regret. Communicate with your husband, get to the roots of why your marriage sucked and then make decisions from that point.

    All the best,

    Ted

  5. Dawn

    U r completely correct I think. Problem is he won’t c a counselor, I have tried over and over. I want to fix us if we can before we explore as I think if we don’t work us first then it will never work out! Problem is he wants to explore now as he thinks that is what might fix us and I disagree. Maybe he just wants sex with other girls and that’s his way of keeping me too!!! Maybe he’s looking for he best of both worlds and I’m being to stupid to wake up and realize that. Sometimes I think he best thing would b to just let him go but I don’t know how. But then I will always wonder if I should have tried to make it work! Oh my goodness I don’t know what to do anymore

  6. Dawn

    I have tried to get him to go to counselling and he refuses. So what do I do? I don’t know if we can do it without that help, I guess all I can do is try but yet I’m scared. I don’t want to put my children threw this again…..I keep hoping he will come home but then this week when he said he missed us and things he might soon be ready to come….I panicked and wondered if I can really handle it or I should just let him go. I feel so alone and hurt and angry and sad.

  7. admin

    If you feel like you’ve given it all you can and he refuses to take responsibility for his part, then perhaps it’s better for everyone if you walk away and put your energies elsewhere. I believe marriages can be saved but both have to want it. Sometimes the other will want it after he or she finally realizes what they are losing or have lost.

  8. Melody

    I met my husband when I was 17. Been together 16 years and married for over half of that. We have two kids together and we raised his son and his son’s half brother since they were 3 and 5. Ever since we’ve been together, it’s like he clinged to me. Hes suffocated me in a sense but I kept him around anyway. I had plans on looking into going to tech school after high school, but after getting into a frame of mind of ” what would he do without me?” I failed to do so. A year later, I got pregnant. In three years, we became a family of 6 and we got married. A part of me believes now that I didn’t marry Mr. Right. We don’t see eye to eye, we argue, he puts me and the kids down, he spends up all the money. I know I walked into this with my eyes open hoping he’d change and he’s made extremely slow progress…I’m very unhappy. a part of me didn’t want to leave because I didn’t want to break up the family. I’m concerned about him being on his own because he’s physically disabled and now a diabetic on top of other minor health issues. I feel some moral obligation to him. He has lived on his own before he met me. ( we’re four years apart) so I’ve been on the fence for years as I slowly come to realize that the kids and I deserve better than this. I’m tired of arguing with him as he tries to turn the tables and make me look bad or say I’m making him out to be the “bad guy”. Both of us has done wrong and hasn’t forgiven the other. A part of me no longer trusts him, I’m not in love with him though there is love there. I feel im ready to move on but I can’t even bring myself to talk to him about us anymore. We just swept the bad under the rug and moved on. I can’t do that anymore. I’ve gotten so comfortable with where I am, I think I’m scared to start over. Scared of the unknown. Any thoughts here?

  9. Barry

    Hi, my common law girlfriend has just given me an ultimatum. If I don’t remove the magazine pic of a bikini clad girl from my workshop wall at work, she is going to leave me. Because of this pic she has called me a disgusting pervert, and a sexual predator…. Will taking it down really change how she feels about me?, and should I even want to be with someone who thinks so little of me?

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