Should I keep in Touch With my Therapist?

I was wondering how to make the thought of my therapist moving far away easier. I have been going to a therapist for three months, I feel I have a great connection with her, and I feel like it will be really hard to cope with her being so far away. What can I do to make this easier? Is it ok if I ask her if I can stay in touch?

-Susan

Dear Susan,

This is quite common in a client and counselor relationship. The fact that you have been sharing intimate details with your therapist creates a deep connection. However, it’s important to remember that you are paying her to listen and help. She is not a friend per say. It’s important to keep this relationship in the right place in your mind and that is one of a professional client/counselor. Don’t get me wrong, these relationships can be special, but they are always just for a season. I would advise you to not put your counselor in a position where she would have to make an ethical decision. Perhaps she could refer you to another counselor with a similar style and philosophy?

All the best,

Ted