Trust Issue or Paranoia: Is My Husband Cheating?
2 years ago I saw a suspicious email in my husband’s opened email box. I wasn’t snooping – it was opened, something caught my eye and I asked him about it. He said that it was just spam – it hadn’t been opened (until I opened it) and there were more unopened emails like that. These emails were from online matching sights but I accepted his reason as I get a lot of inappropriate stuff in my work email as a teacher.
However, we have been in a sexless marriage over the past 10 years – once a month – and there is very little intimacy. I initiate most physical contact (hugs, kisses, sex) 99% of the time. Lately, he has been overly possessive of his cell phone – won’t even let me touch it to use the camera to take pix of him with the kids. He refused to share passwords to any/all email accounts when this came up 2 years ago – and I just found out that he has a twitter account that I didn’t even know about.
There are many people on his FB friends list I don’t even know. My past relationships always failed because the guys always cheated. I thought I met the one that would never do that. Am I being paranoid – or could the lack of sex/intimacy be a sign of something on his part?
-PamOK22
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It sounds like you do have reason to be suspicious, he is obviously hiding something and concerning the no sex thing, I would classify that as abnormal male behavior. Medically some guys don’t want sex because of things like hormonal problems, but since this is coupled with the other stuff, he may indeed be cheating. Is he away from the house a lot?
You can approach this in two ways. First, confront him directly about it, but he may not admit to it. Secondly, you could do some more digging yourself and get to the truth. Here is a good resource to use to catch him in the act. Click here to read more about how you can catch him in the act or you could hire a private investigator.
I have a feeling your gut is right here and you have to prepare yourself for what will happen if He is indeed cheating. You do deserve a man that will be faithful and that will love and cherish only you. Perhaps it would be good to evaluate the qualities in these guys that make them prone to cheating and then figure out why you keep choosing guys with those qualities. This is a tough situation, but I hope you get answers and I wish you all the best.
Kind regards,
Ted
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