Undue Suspicion of My Boyfriend

I am suspicious of my boyfriend without cause. I have been through some bad relationships and seem to be taking this out on him, when he has done nothing wrong. I can’t seem just to get past this. 98 percent of the time I know the relationship is good, but there are other times when I get insecure and suspicious and go looking for things to accuse him of. I am fearful that I am in a bad relationship and he is doing things behind my back, when in reality, I should know better.

-Jennifer

Dear Jennifer,

Thanks for your question. It sounds like you have some serious trust issues. I think you really need to communicate this problem to your boyfriend and look into some type of on going counseling in order to not let the past sabotage something that could be great for your future.

Otherwise, you really aren’t being fair to this guy or any guy you date because too much pressure is being put on them and they will see you as “high maintenance” . It’s great that you are aware of this and want to be different. That is the first step so keep moving in the right direction.

All the best,

Ted