Why Do I Feel Angry and Sad All The Time?

By | December 15, 2010

Hi, I just want some advice on why I am so angry all the time. I can be happy and cheerful one minute then something little happens and I’m in an angry mood for days.

I feel so sick of life and often have suicidal thoughts. Me and my partner live with my mom and I have been going through a lot of stress financially and emotionally. My health hasn’t been to good at times either. I don’t have any friends anymore and never go out. I feel so lost and don’t know why.

I should be happy and care-free, I’m only 21! I don’t know what is wrong with me, I just want some answers. I keep getting angry with the people I love and I’m pushing them away. I cry all the time and just feel like I’m not coping anymore. Please help me.


Dear Amanda,

Thanks for taking the time to write in with your problem and it sounds like life indeed isn’t very care-free and fun for you at the moment. I can offer you a few suggestions to consider in dealing with extreme mood swings.

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First, if this has been going on for awhile I would recommend seeing a doctor. You may have some chemical imbalances that are causing your emotions to be out of wack. A doctor will be able to assess this or refer you to someone that can. Medication might be necessary to level you out a bit.

Secondly, angry outbursts over the smallest things can be a sign of deeper things going on in your soul. If you have repressed anger over bad things that may have happened to you as a child or something along those lines, this often expresses itself as anger for the wrong reasons and directed at the wrong people.  Often when things happen to us as children we are left feeling powerless and vulnerable. This powerlessness can cause deep seated anger. I don’t know your history, but a counselor would be able to get to the bottom of this during the counseling process.

Third, it’s important to add things to your life that have positive effects on your mood. Get out and exercise as this does wonders for your mood and health. Eat right, make sure your diet is full of nutritious fruits and vegetables while watching your sugar intake. Erratic blood sugar levels can also cause mood swings. Put yourself in situations that will allow you to meet new people and make new friends. Perhaps a church group, a community group, volunteering? Giving back to others can also create positive feelings within.

Most importantly, it’s important to realize that this can be fixed and life can be as you imagine it could be. You’ve taken the first step by asking for help. Now get out there and get to the bottom of this issue and do what’s necessary to change it.

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