Wife Left and Then Cheated

By | April 18, 2012

My wife left me because she said she was no longer happy and needs space. She said she still loves me and hopes we find our way back to each other.

We have a 2 and a half year old son together so not seeing each other isn’t exactly an option.

She hooked up with another guy the day after she left me because she said she was angry and confused and they are still talking because she says they are friends.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I am sinking deeper and deeper into depression.

My family is everything to me. Everything I worked for. Is it too late for this to work out?


Dear Tyler,

The fact that she left and needed space was one thing and sometimes this is healthy. However, she then slept with another guy.

This adds a whole other dimension to the ability and likelihood that the marriage will be able to recover. Now you have to deal with feeling betrayed and the trust issues as well as deal with the reasons she wanted to leave.

I would say that you both need to find a good marriage counselor and start talking trough this stuff. Sometimes marriages like yours can be saved, but it takes a lot of communication and work.

Make sure that you don’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of and victimized because of your fear of being alone or depressed. At the end of the day, you deserve to be loved, respected, and cherished. If your wife is going to continue to cheat, then you are probably better off without her.

I feel for your kid because they many times pay the price for their parent’s selfish behavior.

Kindest regards,


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